"Tantra is not technique but prayer. Is not head oriented but a relaxation into the heart. It is a scientific approach! It is alchemy! It can transform your center's, it can transform the other's center's. It can create a rhythm and harmony between you and your beloved. That is the beauty of tantra. It is like bringing electricity into your house" Osho

“The beauty and wisdom of Tantra is that it enhances sexuality as a doorway to the “ecstatic mind of great bliss”. Truly, at the peak of orgasm, we pierce through the illusion of fragmentation and separation, and glimpse the unity and interconnectedness of all beings. And through the other–our partner–we fall in love with life.”         Margot Anand

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Tantric initiation for men 

Through each session I weave in the fundamentals of Tantra relative to your situation in order to support you with empowering tools to explore who you are as a man and what is holding you back from living in fullness and maturity in response to your life and those around you.

I support You with standing in, not only your masculinity but also understanding and connecting with the feminine principle that is a part of you and which through this integration establishes deepened intimacy with self and in turn; women, sexual empowerment, confidence in life and sexual encounters.

Our “root” area holds all our unconscious beliefs related to our survival … money, home, sex, relationships with others and the world around us, our relationship with “self” and how safe we feel in our own skin.

In the area of the root, we call the penis “lingam”. Lingam comes from the beautiful language of Sanskrit, loosely translated it means “wand of light.”  

 

When a man has embraced his lingam as part of his whole being into his life and sex life from an essence of Tantra, it brings forth a richer sensuality to love making and an ability to experience pleasure not only in the genitals but the whole body – to experience a depth of connected touch with himself, others and the world around him.

He owns his manhood in ALL areas of his life. 

This can be achieved through Tantric Initiation for men.

An aspect of this initiation incorporates working with the lingam and while this can be highly sensual and pleasurable, it is not necessarily sexual. We are exploring  Lingam healing not Lingam massage as would be shared between lovers.

 

To expand on this, you are blindfolded where the journey is solely about you, intending to  direct you inwards to meet the rich sensual rhelm of your own inner cosmos.

The blindfolding creates space for you to deepen your connection with your body and for emotional wounds to be witnessed and released.  Its an opportunity through my guidance to connect with your heart and the deepest parts of yourself.  So much of a man’s focus is on the external world, it is his nature … here you are given a sacred space to explore your inner world/cosmos deeply through your senses as I guide you 

The lingam is included in a tantric initiation simply because I choose to honour and worship you as a “whole being” but it is certainly not the focus of the session. So much in life is placed in separate boxes and we can be guilty of doing this with our bodies, separating our genitals from the rest of who we are creating shame or taboo.

When working with your lingam, the goal is a very present experience of the senses that unfolds. Please be aware though: it is not my intention as a  Tantric Therapist or my responsibility to “provide a happy ending.  My “role” is to remove all focus related to sexuality and sensuality away from the lingam and the mind and distribute this powerful life force energy that is yours, throughout your body with a conscious and present form of loving touch to enable you to surrender the parts of you that hold you back from being the fullest expression of you as a man. 

Once your sexual energy is fired up in the lingam area, I therefore aim to show you through direct experience, how to move that energy up and throughout the body, where you are able to circulate your sexual energy over and over again without ejaculation. The power of learning to circulate your orgasm ensures that you build your sexual energy and direct it up into the body as a powerful healing tool and catalyst for transformation. The sexual energy is converted into Chi ( life force energy), it rejuvenates the organs, builds stamina, creates spiritual expansion along with connection to the deepest parts of yourself and those around you. Old wounds and limitations fall away and Lets not forget the potential endurance that can happen during love making with your partner, once you master these simple techniques.

 

 (To begin with when working on you, one of the techniques utilised, is known in the Tantric/Taoist circles as the million dollar point. There is alot of controversy by men out there regarding the utilisation of this point which I do not agree with. To find out more please read here) 

The point of this work is not to provide relief through ejaculation but to use the sense of arousal to reach blissful spaces of no-mind, to achieve whole body sensations, healing and deep relaxation.  It is to allow sex to be about the natural instincts of our wonderful sensual bodies and not about the mind and all its thoughts, fantasies, fixations and anxieties. 

It is an essential part of a man’s life to experience the capacity of his sexual energy beyond the act of sex and beyond the idea that sex is solely a pleasure based in the area of the genitals. Our sexual energy has such a bigger part to play in our lives beyond the act of sex.  It inspires us, Heals us and motivates us to take action ~ it is our va va voom for life. 

 

Session work explores the healing of:

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  • Infertility

  • Low sex drive

  • Fear of intimacy

  • Difficulties with touch

  • Fear of being physically, emotionally or spiritually close to a woman

  • Fear of expressing one’s feelings or emotions

  • “Inability” to feel, give or receive love

  • The inability to feel safe in one’s own skin

  • Lack of trust in relationships

  • Lack of respect for one’s own sexuality, reducing promiscuity

  • Lack of motivation, inspiration, mojo and creativity

  • Lack of self and/or sexual confidence.

  • Mother Wounds

  • Ownership of manhood.

Ongoing session work invites into a relationship with another:

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  • An ability to trust

  • A willingness to be vulnerable

  • An ability to surrender

  • A connection of rich depth and unity

  • Nourishing and satisfying sex for the mind, body & soul

  • It allows a wide range of orgasms and climax experiences never tasted before. For the man to immerse himself into for personal exploration of his body and masculinity ~ revealing, deepening and expanding his sensuality and sexuality

  • Teaches a man how to be with a woman, hear and met her needs

  • Teaches a man how to hold a space for his partner.

 

Tantric initiation and what sessions involve

 

Tantric therapy is a journey of exploration, not a “quick sticks fix.”  With love and respect this gentle process unfolds you, blessing each person who immerses into its natural rhythm, profound understanding and beautiful experiences.

While Tantric Touch work is very much a part of the session, alongside that we explore; 

- Meditation,

-Breathing practice,

-Intimacy counselling  

-Tantric life coaching, 

Sexual shadow

-Techniques to strengthen your sexual energy and power

as well as a very powerful technique that supports you with accessing hidden trauma with in your body ready to be felt and released.

 To start with, in order to receive the introductory benefits of your tantric journey, it's essential that you are able to commit the minimum of four sessions, each a few days apart.  This enables you to fully receive the benefits and teachings of Authentic Tantra and its touch work and to immerse yourself in the full potential of your body and sensuality.

 A “One off ” experience is all very well and nourishing in it’s own right but it’s certainly not enough to gain a true picture of the healing power that Tantra has to offer, nor enough to form the foundations for the significant changes in your life that drew you to this website.