Tantric therapy for Couples
When working with couples, I work with each of you together, but as as individuals. Its important to mention that until you can individuate from the suffocating cliche of what relationships represent in this day and age, its hard to understand the importance and sacredness of the space apart which needs to happen from time to time, in order to create the passion that will draw you back together again..
The depth of union in a relationship isnt possible until you allow the individuality of who you are as a man or woman to penetrate the polarity of your partner through your truth, voice, and sentiment..
Time and time again I see that It is those couples that avoid any form of triggering through playing it safe or avoidance that end up loosing passion and desire for each other and become bored after a period of time. Its the triggering that allows the real intimacy to happen as a result of having unseen aspect of ourselves mirrored back to us through our partners.. By triggering I mean feeling a strong reaction in response to your partner. The trick is to recognise when its yours and own it. It is also the ability to openly and honestly communicate your issue or feelings around the matter as a means of finding healing and understanding.When we each own our ''stuff'' with our partners, we can grow as a couple. To open to the sharing of this level of vulnerability, allows for real intimacy, and to be truly seen and loved. It requires honesty, courage and vulnerability to really learn what it means to love another and hold a space for them because you are able to hold a space for yourself.
In session we explore:
What is means to be triggered and how you can use it as a powerful tool to go deeper
Understanding your partner as the opposite aspect of yourself. Exploring the masculine/feminine archetypes
Understanding what your woman needs from you to relax and fully access her sexuality
What does a woman's orgasm really look like
Understanding what a man needs from you to fully respect your sexuality and bring you to heightened levels of pleasure
What does a man's orgasm really look like
Understanding what you need from each other in order to respect and support each other
How to deepen your intimacy.
Tools to deepen intimacy and connection
Taoist massage to slowly activate the sexual energy
How to build the sexual energy and keep building it- Microcosmic orbit
Tantric love-making ( for advanced couples)
My process with couples generally starts with a few individual sessions for each partner where I get a sense of you as a individual. Many couples approach me with the intention of improving their sex life but what they dont realize is that there is a backlog of emotional and energetic congestion that hinders their ability to We also briefly explore your individual dynamics and what potential energetic blockages/patterns lie in the way hindering your capacity to experience your full expression as a couple.
The fundamentals of both traditional and Neo Tantra is woven into the session where applicable, allowing you greater understanding of your dynamics and how you can incorporate Tantra into your life as a couple.
I then encourage you both to see me each individually. This is where I work with you energetically removing blockages, in order to shift your being into a higher frequency so that when you both come together again, you meet through heightened levels of intimacy and deepened understanding of what is possible as a couple in the rhelm of tantra.
Although I work with your sexual energy, this journey is purely about you, and as you lie on the massage table, you are blindfolded and taken on a deep inner journey that allows energy blockages to shift and your sexual flow to to expand..
Upon completion of the two individual sessions I advise we meet one last time, to wrap up everything that has been experienced, sending you off with techniques and practices to deepen your connection. I am always available for skype thereafter should there be a need for checking in further down the line.
“The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust
A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.”
― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet